In 2020, suicide was the 12th leading cause of death overall in the US, claiming the lives of over 45,900 people (National Institute of Mental Health). The topic of suicide is complicated and very tragic; however, it is also preventable. September is Suicide Prevention month and we want to share some resources and warning signs to help you and your loved ones.
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The three attachment styles covered so far (anxious, avoidant, and disorganized) are insecure attachment styles and so, they are characterized by difficulties with maintaining healthy relationships. Today we’re going to be exploring the secure attachment style–the attachment style we all hope to aim for in relationships.
In today’s post, we’re going to focus on the anxious/preoccupied attachment style. For adults with an anxious attachment style, the thought of living without a partner (or being alone in general) causes high levels of anxiety. Often people with this attachment style have a negative view of themselves while having a positive view of others.
Sexual conflicts can arise from a variety of factors, including differences in sexual desire, communication issues, past traumas, physical or medical concerns, and emotional intimacy challenges. Couples therapy aims to address these conflicts by providing a safe and supportive environment for partners to explore their feelings, desires, and concerns related to their sexual relationship. Here’s how couples therapy can help in resolving sexual conflicts:
As a couples therapist, I often end up helping clients become aware of their attachment styles and the impact attachment styles have on relationships. Attachment styles are how you ‘attach’ to people in intimate relationships, and John Bowlby’s work on attachment theory identified 4 adult styles which are: anxious (preoccupied), avoidant (dismissive), disorganized (fearful-avoidant), and secure. Attachment styles develop early in life and often remain stable over time, but with the help of secure attachments to romantic partner(s), and/or therapy, attachment styles can change for the better. In this series of posts, we’ll briefly explore each attachment style and then explore ways to foster a secure attachment style.