In today’s post, we’re going to focus on the anxious/preoccupied attachment style. For adults with an anxious attachment style, the thought of living without a partner (or being alone in general) causes high levels of anxiety. Often people with this attachment style have a negative view of themselves while having a positive view of others.
As a couples therapist, I often end up helping clients become aware of their attachment styles and the impact attachment styles have on relationships. Attachment styles are how you ‘attach’ to people in intimate relationships, and John Bowlby’s work on attachment theory identified 4 adult styles which are: anxious (preoccupied), avoidant (dismissive), disorganized (fearful-avoidant), and secure. Attachment styles develop early in life and often remain stable over time, but with the help of secure attachments to romantic partner(s), and/or therapy, attachment styles can change for the better. In this series of posts, we’ll briefly explore each attachment style and then explore ways to foster a secure attachment style.
In the first part of this series, we delved into the prevalence rate of adult ADHD, ADHD as a deficit of one’s executive functioning, and ADHD as a performance disorder rather than a knowledge deficit. In this article, we’ll flesh out what strategies, tools, and treatment that are helpful for adults with ADHD to consider.
Cross-cultural couples often face a unique set of challenges due to their differing cultural backgrounds, values, traditions, and expectations. While every couple is different, here are some common relationship issues that cross-cultural couples may encounter and how couples therapy can be helpful in addressing the issues.
While having coffee with some colleagues, we got into an interesting discussion about the profound impact ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder) has on adults. While ADHD is widely known and often attributed to children, we might often miss the many adults who are living with ADHD–an issue that is negatively impacting many lives.